Hypnosis for Erectile Dysfunction
"I've been feeling and performing great for about three years."
"The sessions got me past worrying about performing…I have virtually no pings of any kind, no problem with erections."
- anonymous, Boston
"The work we did in your office played a huge role in fixing my immediate symptom, and also played a big role in making my marriage much better."
- anonymous, Marlboro
"It had been about 5 years since I had all-natural sex...it was a staggering success"
- anonymous, Boston
How I help guys with hypnosis for erectile dysfunction
The Performance Anxiety ED Problem: Logically you know you should be able to perform sexually. You're healthy. The doctor has told you that there isn't any physical issue.* You're fine on your own. You know it's not the end of the world if the sex doesn't go perfectly. Consciously...rationally...intellectually... you should feel fine. But you don't. There's a part of your mind that sends a signal of anxiety. You lose your ability to perform and enjoy sex.
The Solution: To use erectile dysfunction hypnosis and related approaches to work directly with the part of your mind that's sending that anxiety signal. So you have the chance to bring help directly to that subconscious/emotional part of your mind — the part that doesn't care about all those reasons why you should feel fine. So you have the chance to genuinely solve the problem at that deeper level where it's happening.
*Be sure you're 100% doctor-approved healthy before considering erectile dysfunction hypnosis as a treatment option.
The way clients structure their ED is different from guy to guy. Even across different clients who have the same issue. So I'm constantly changing and adapting approaches to fit each client and the unique structure of their issue. The work usually involves hypnotherapy, but there are also many other ways to get things solved.
These are some of the approaches I combine to help clients succeed.
Hypnotherapy is a great way to get to the core of an erectile dysfunction issue. It's a way of engaging the deeper/unconscious parts of the mind so clients get results they can feel, not just intellectual understandings. It's also a great state for learning and a useful tool for relaxation. These are some of the hypnotherapy approaches I use in my practice:
• Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
• Ideomotor Hypnotherapy
Through careful use of language, I can help clients connect and work with some very deep (and usually outside of consciousness) parts of themselves. These approaches can sometimes streamline the process, reduce performance anxiety ("Am I hypnotized?!") and make the process easier.
Neuro-linguistic programming offers a suite of tools that help clients gain more control over the way they're thinking about things. More control + more options usually = better sexual performance.
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a close relative of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). It's a way of helping clients see some of the "filters" they've been seeing the world through so they can find more choices. On it's own it can be a bit dry and hard for clients to accept. Combined with hypnotherapy and NLP, it can be life-changing, particularly for ED clients who are trapped in the "I MUST get hard" loop where the harder they try to get hard, the more anxious they get and the worse they perform.
BD is based on the work of BJ Fogg, director of The Behavioral Design Lab at Stanford University. His research shows that long-term change is best accomplished when people feel good. Taking very small steps in a consistently positive way can yield powerful results, especially as ED clients are learning it's safe to get back in the bedroom.
Psychological Illusions/De-Hypnosis/Metacognitive therapy
Some clients create their ED by (innocently) hypnotizing themselves into some really bad trances. The stories and images they create can be powerful drivers for a lot of panic and anxiety.
Helping clients develop tools to "wake up" when they start do that can often make a big difference. The psychological illusion model offers tools to help clients to see through those thoughts in a way that allows for a lot more peace of mind. It's another way of helping clients wake up from some of the "thoughtmares" that have been scaring them when they go to have sex.
Metaphors and stories can often help clients see things in much deeper way than more analytical/left-brained conversations. They're invaluable for helping clients "connect the dots" and see outside of the places where they've been stuck. Unstuck clients usually resolve their erectile dysfunction.
Helping clients slowly work in the direction of fear trigger can often be an important part of the process. The really important thing is being sure that before they start they have new resources (usually developed through the other approaches mentioned here). That way they can feel safe as they move back into the bedroom.
Sometimes being very direct or playing the devil's advocate with a client can help them to see new options in a way that more circumspect approaches can't.
Eye Movement Desensitization Therapy and the Emotional Freedom Technique are both ways to "unstick" some thought/feeling combinations. One involves the client gently tapping some acupressure points, the other following a prompt for some simple eye movements. Both can be helpful in resolving ED issues.
Certain breathing patterns act as effective tools for resetting the sympathetic fight or flight response. They can be a shortcut to creating a sense of calm that can be extremely useful, especially for clients with ED.
Visualization work, much like the type athletes do to prime themselves for success, can sometimes be a useful tool with erectile dysfunction, particularly after a client has solved most of the issue.
I can't say how long it would take to resolve your ED. You may work slowly, you may work quickly. Some problems are straightforward, some turn out to be more complicated. My goal is to help my clients find a lasting solution as quickly as possible without using 'band-aid' approaches or cutting corners. Usually things go pretty quickly, but I like working with guys who are ready to be persistent in resolving their ED performance anxiety if that's what it takes.
About 50% of the work I do helping guys resolve psychological ED is done online. About 50% of the work I do helping clients resolve their ED is done online. Online clients have done just as well as those who've been able to come in for office sessions. The results have been equally good.
I charge a flat fee for client success. I find --Clients get better results when they commit up front to spend the money/time it takes to solve their problem (results aren’t as good when people dabble and “try hypnosis”).-Clients get better results when they’re not worried about how much time they’re taking.-Clients get better results when they’re mid-process and they’re not worried about how much more it might cost them get to the point where they’re successful. So you'd pay one flat fee to overcome your ED. One price, regardless of how many sessions it takes to solve the problem completely. ‘Solved’ as both defined by and judged by you. Fees vary depending on the situation and the severity of the ED. Usually they fall somewhere between $3-7k.
I guarantee all erectile dysfunction work with a half-back refund. If a client reaches the ten session mark and they’re making good progress, great. We continue working until the problem is completely solved. If they’ve done that much work and they don’t feel like they’ve made progress, I guarantee the work by refunding half the fee. It’s also guaranteed if a client has a problem later on. “Relapses” are rare, but if they ever happen – whether it’s three weeks, three months or three years later – they’re 100% covered. The client is back here in the office and we resolve whatever we may have missed.
Sorry, I don't do any insurance billing. I've had a few clients who were able to get the work partially covered with HSA funds, but I don't know the details of how they arranged it. I just provided them with a receipt.
The vast majority of clients I've done erectile dysfunction hypnosis with have solved their problem. Of all the different types of issues I help people resolve, this is the one I've seen clients succeed mostly consistently with. It's been more work for some than others, and many have resolved other issues in the process. There are people who don't get good results, though. Fortunately, I'm usually able to identify them before they start, so they can find someone who's a better fit for them.
From Dennis S., 2009
"I had been suffering from an intermittent non-physical ED problem for approximately the past year or so, which was increasing in intensity when I finally contacted Brian. As a 36 year old married man, this was wreaking havoc on both my own personal happiness, and the strength and quality of my relationship with my wife. Through hypnosis, Brian helped me get to the core of my problem. Unfolding over the course of several weeks, we uncovered various, sometimes buried, feelings that had been contributing to my problem: anger, resentment, anxiety, stress, lack of self confidence, and guilt. Each session, we picked off one or more of these negative feelings from the past, and worked to eliminate these feelings in my present. This strategy was highly effective, as I could actually feel changes in my thought patterns, and usually would notice improvements as we built on this work, week after week. I now feel as though a huge weight has lifted off my shoulders, and my problem has not recurred!
For those of you considering this technique: this is not an exercise in passiveness. You are an completely active participant in the process. You simply need to open your mind. In my own personal case, I was able to keep all my own thoughts and feelings private. Using alternative techniques, Brian was able to help guide me through my issues without needing to know the intimate details of my life. This was very important to me. Brian can help you, but ultimately YOU are responsible for doing the work - finding the core of your problem and taking the necessary mental and physical actions needed to fix it. If you are willing to face your fears, demons, true feelings, strong emotions, etc, and beat them once and for all on your own terms, this exercise is for you!!
I am extremely grateful to Brian for his commitment and guidance in helping me to get my life back on track. This hypnosis work has had profound implications on both my intimate relationship and my personal state of mind! If you are considering hypnosis as an option, I can not give a higher recommendation than I can for Brian!!!"
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